Compassion for our own neuroses

"The more you disapprove of your own neuroses, the more of a problem they become. The time to disapprove of them is if they are hurting others; and then in the moment. But one does not go into punishing oneself for having them at other times. If one is aware that one has patterns, then one has to say, "I need to have some awareness while this pattern is performing"."

Compassion, Ngak'chang Rinpoche, Aro Encyclopaedia