The development of clarity arises from our growing awareness of the natural spaciousness of being. With growing clarity, the life problems that occur cease to manifest so painfully. We no longer add to their intensity as an automatic reflex. Ultimately, our lives are our own responsibility. Our problems are for us to work through. There is no use in blaming the state of our lives on anybody else. p90, Spectrum of Ecstasy, Ngakpa Chögyam with Khandro Déchen, Aro Books, 1997, ISBN 0-9653948-0-8