Silent sitting is essential. All you need to do is accept what you are feeling and stop fighting. You can relax with the situation – and take whatever happens as it comes. Decisions made on the basis of accepting yourself—albeit temporarily—‘as you are’, can be made more cheerfully and without resenting yourself. You need to be at ease with how you are at the same time as moving on – and that requires space, the space of silent sitting. p137, Emailing the Lamas from Afar, Ngakpa Chögyam and Khandro Déchen, Aro Books, 2009, ISBN 978-0-9653948-5-7