It is not so important to see desire as neurotic or not neurotic – it is only important to observe your behaviour and the reaction to that behaviour.If you seem to be upsetting people and causing problems then the desire is likely to be neurotic. If your behaviour evokes delight and merriment then your desire is likely to lack neurosis.
p185, Emailing the Lamas from Afar, Ngakpa Chögyam and Khandro Déchen, Aro Books, 2009, ISBN 978-0-9653948-5-7