Everything either occurs or does not. That would appear to be a fact of nature. Happiness, however, is not accidental.
To be happy, appreciate the sense fields and attempt to live more fully in the moment. Do not complicate your experience with concepts. Employ concept less than vision. Employ concept less than hearing. Employ concept less than tactility. Employ concept less than fragrancing. Employ concept less than savouring.
p239, Emailing the Lamas from Afar, Ngakpa Chögyam and Khandro Déchen, Aro Books, 2009, ISBN 978-0-9653948-5-7
Painful emotions are maintained though the process of thinking about them. We continually regenerate our painful emotions by intellectualising about them – rather than experiencing them at the non-conceptual level. The only way out is to let awareness find itself in the dimension of whatever emotion has arisen; and to experience it purely. When we are able to let go of justification we are no longer as involved in maintaining the integrity of our self-image. When this neurotic involvement is reduced, the energy of anger is no longer coloured by the need to prove our existence through the manifestation of aggression.
p145, Spectrum of Ecstasy, Ngakpa Chögyam with Khandro Déchen, Aro Books, 1997, ISBN 0-9653948-0-8
When ‘subject-object dichotomy’ dissolves into space, anger can no longer exist as anger but transforms into total clarity. This clarity dispassionately reflects all that it sees. Nothing is left out. Nothing is added. We see the whole picture in all its vibrant detail. Non-dual anger is unconditioned clarity. It is displayed by the brilliance and calmness of water. The undisturbed surface of water perfectly mirrors the sky. The crystal clarity of undisturbed water is incapable of bias or distortion.
p145, Spectrum of Ecstasy, Ngakpa Chögyam with Khandro Déchen, Aro Books, 1997, ISBN 0-9653948-0-8
The Tibetan word for mandala (Sanskrit for ‘grouping’ or ‘association’) is khyil-khor. Khyil-khor is a totally interpenetrating energy. It is not possible to exclude anyone from your khyil-khor or to be excluded from anyone else's.
Ultimately, every being is part of your khyil-khor. Everyone and everything is linked with your field of energy; and you are linked with theirs. Therefore it is vital that we recognise this, or that we work towards this recognition. You cannot really ever feel comfortable in your own skin if you are attempting to be exclusive. It is not appropriate, or accurate, to exclude anyone or anything; because that would be attempting to do something that is not possible.
p105-108, Spectrum of Ecstasy, Ngakpa Chögyam with Khandro Déchen, Aro Books, 1997, ISBN 0-9653948-0-8
Everything either occurs or does not. That would appear to be a fact of nature. Happiness, however, is not accidental.