If you allow yourself to get caught up in the idea that your pain has been caused by somebody else, you may feel you have to throw a tantrum. People get into some terrible difficulties over this, and act in ways that only make their situation worse. Rejecting responsibility for feeling as we do spawns jealousy, bitterness, resentment, recrimination and vengefulness. Rejecting responsibility for how we feel has never created the causes for pleasure, enjoyment or emotional fulfilment. p91, Spectrum of Ecstasy, Ngakpa Chögyam with Khandro Déchen, Aro Books, 1997, ISBN 0-9653948-0-8
