Emotional heights and depths exist as ornaments, in the sense that ornaments don’t alter the basic nature of the person who wears them. You can wear joy, and you can wear sorrow. When you have the experience of joy or sorrow, you can have the sense that you are not actually totally defined by either. That is to say: who is it who wears this sorrow or this joy?p50, Spectrum of Ecstasy, Ngakpa Chögyam with Khandro Déchen, Aro Books, 1997, ISBN 0-9653948-0-8